Celeste and the denial of perfectionism

What's the difference between greatness and perfection? In theory, being perfect sounds great. But in practice, it means avoiding all mistakes, and that can be limiting. The easiest way to be perfect is to avoid everything outside your comfort zone, which means you'll never grow and improve. In this way, perfectionism can be a malicious …

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We should disagree more

The biggest problem in American politics is that liberals and conservatives don't disagree enough. They should disagree more. Let me explain what I mean by that. There's a difference between understanding and agreement. Understanding means seeing things from the other person's point of view, and knowing what they really mean. The opposite is misunderstanding -- …

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Emotional maturity, Part 7: Avoiding the obstacles and just talking about feelings

This is the final post in this series -- I'll explore some possible explanations for why we don't just talk about our feelings. To reiterate, talking about your feelings is really important. They originate in your subconscious, making them hard to interpret, but they have important information. Talking to other people is the best way …

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Emotional maturity, Part 6: Building emotional intelligence

The last part of emotional maturity is fairly simple: talk about your feelings, and listen to the feelings of others. That's really the entire thing. But there are two big issues that come up when we put this into practice, the first of which I'll discuss in this post. This first issue is simply one …

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Emotional maturity, Part 5: How to interpret your feelings

The last two posts tell nearly opposite stories. On the one hand, your feelings are amazing things that give you quick, broad-reaching impressions of what will be good for you. On the other hand, they don't always point you in the right direction, and it's hard to double-check the math on them because the process …

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